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Want Trust and Respect? Say "No"
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Posted about 1 month ago My friend has a twisted theory about building trusting relationships. It goes like this: "If I make people happy by not disagreeing with them they will like me more. Then they'll trust me more because I'm agreeable. Wow. Then when I need something or want something I'm more likely to get it." what do you think? |
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| Posted about 1 month ago Think for a moment about the people--or person--you trust the most. Do they always say "yes? No. And that's why you trust them. We trust people who have limits and beliefs, then care enough to state what they are. A relationship of "yeses" leaves us suspicious at best. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago People don't have to be disagreeable in order to disagree. We often respect someone who tells us not only that (s)he sees things differently, but who then takes time to calmly explain "why." Taking time to explain "why" is a sign of respect toward us. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago This theory of making happy by not diagreeing is applicable to babies and to rational people temporarily . Because not diagrreing on genuine reason will also create confusion in the beneficiary whether this person is really reliable or s/he is a yes minister . |